Dating and finding that right other half is much like grocery shopping. Nothing is more disappointing that buying a beautifuly colored, plump juicy looking peach, then biting into it only to find it's dry, and tasteless, or sour with rot. The same goes for people. We've all met someone who is much like that peach. Sure, they look perfect from the outside, but it soom becomes apparent that looks can definitely be deceiving. All too often this happens more than we'd like to admit, and for some it's a vicious cycle of not recognizing the spoiled fruit, but after a few foul tasting experiences, most of us learn to be a bit more decerning, employing more precaution, smelling and squeezing before taking that first bite.
Of course, not all "peaches" are perfect. Like people, some of the best tasting are knotty, lumpy, and mishaped. While it's not usually the norm that the worst looking fruit turns out the be the sweetest and juciest, we are all guilty of not looking past the skin, and acknowledging the inner pit. When you pick the right peach for you, you have to be willing to accept the good, and bad, because it's a package deal.
When we begin a relationship, we are eager to get to know this person who has attracted our attention, and it's thrilling to learn what makes them who they are as the getting to know each other phase progresses. Even when certain comments, mannerisms, characteristics, or actions, set off our alarm, most of us are willing to look past these red flags in order to dig a little deeper. Just because you see a few blemishes, doesn't mean the whole peach is damaged. It's human nature to be curious, and none of us want to be accused of seeming shallow, so we turn a blind eye and cut out the unattractive spots, and continue. Pretty soon, you've smelled the fruit's frangrance, and felt it's firmness, and gently squeezed it in all the right places. Then it's time to take that first bite, really sink teeth into it and find out what it tastes like. Either it's delicious, and once you get down to the pit, you understand and know you picked the right peach after all, or it's nasty so you spit it out and head back to the produce aisle.
Returning repeatedly to the "produce aisle" gets tedious after a while, and it becomes easy to get stuck tasting the same type of fruit over and over. Variety is the spice of life, and getting stuck eating the same fruit all the time creates relationship ruts, like picking poor peaches for example. As hard as it might seem, sometimes it's important to switch up, and maybe try a little melon, Casaba, or Canteloupe, or maybe branch out into more exotic produce like kiwi's or mango. If you don't experiment, and give different fruits a chance, you won't know which one is more to your liking.
The main thing to consider, and remember when choosing your favorite fruit, be it peaches, plums. citrus, or melons, is this... It's not always the look and feel, (although the smelling, and squeezing is part of the fun) or braving that first bite that matters the most. It's being sure you want to eat only one kind fruit for the rest of your life. Before you settle for one single flavor, try a few slices first.
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